• 我的中国医改建议,彻底解决看病难看病贵 2019-05-20
  • 中年不发福!51岁景岗山紧身衣秀健硕身材 2019-05-13
  • 紫光阁中共中央国家机关工作委员会 2019-05-10
  • 张大良:高校服务经济社会发展是自身发展的源头活水 2019-05-09
  • 中国又突破难题,杂交水稻在非洲沙漠没有“水土不服”,产量可观 2019-05-06
  • 为什么世界杯让我们如此疯狂 2019-05-01
  • 中央和国家机关“建功新时代 岗位作贡献”br劳模精神宣讲报告会在京举行 2019-04-25
  • 百名红色通缉令三成多归案 海外追逃难在何处? 2019-04-25
  • 设计时速160公里 2.0版商用磁浮列车下线 2019-04-24
  • Map Out Your Life in Chongqing 2019-04-21
  • 【改革印记——看中国发展】从扫盲到留守儿童关爱:暑期社会实践的变迁 2019-04-21
  • 除非必要,下定义要用是,而不是用不,懂吗?“自由发展”是什么,如果劳动还成为人们的日常负担,有自由发展吗? 2019-04-20
  • 上海电影节女性影人大放异彩 中生代女演员不用焦虑 2019-04-19
  • 湖州德清:外宾点赞“智慧诉讼” 2019-04-19
  • 身高没有达到标准就不能认证教师资格证吗? 2019-04-19

    泳坛夺金质合形态走势图:Fishing for Answers: Should I Give Him a Second Chance After He Ghosted Me?

    Let's have a talk, girl.

    image
    Stocksy

    Fishing for Answers is a weekly advice column on BAZAAR.com. From fashion conundrums (what in the world does one wear to a 'business casual' event?) to relationship struggles (how do I get one of those?), to getting ahead in your career and beyond, I’ll tackle your most burning questions with the truthful (and loving) sarcasm you won’t get from your therapist or mom.

    Up this week: ghosting, moving on from a crush, and scamming your way into their will.

    “This guy ghosted me over a year ago and out of the blue is sliding into my DMs again. We had really great chemistry, should I give him a second chance?
    —Anonymous

    Oh honey no, what is you doing? Ghosting is about as common as actual dating itself is in this economy, but that doesn’t make it forgivable. Did he show up to your house holding a boombox blasting "In Your Eyes" outside your window? Did he enlist an entire high school marching band to serenade you? Did he write you a letter every day for a year? NO. HE SLID INTO YOUR DM’S. PROBABLY WITH A BAD LINE, TOO. A romantic love story this does not make.

    The two of you may have had incredible chemistry, but what you did not have is respect. Because if he respected you, he wouldn’t have ghosted you out of the blue. And if he honestly wanted to redeem himself with a second chance, he wouldn’t have chosen an Instagram DM as the grand way to win you back. This is a trap. A modern-day booty call at best. Do not fall for it and convince yourself that he’s worthy of a second chance. My professional opinion would be to post a thirst trap in which you look hot AF, leave him on read, and move on to someone who’s going to respect you. That’s the hottest chemistry of all.

    "When in a relationship should you bring up being added into their will?"
    —Not a Scammer

    Sounds like a second date conversation to me. But if you actually want a third date, I would maybe wait to bring up planning for their death until after you’ve secured the ring. Some people get a little touchy when they think you're trying to scam your way into their will and inheritance, which I guess is understandable.

    If it's a long-term relationship, however, then it's fair game to bring up their will and plan for the future if it's something you're concerned about. Approach the conversation from a genuine point-of-view that's just trying to plan ahead, for both of your sakes. If you feel uncomfortable talking about it, make it clear that it's a conversation that will benefit the both of you in the long-run. And if you're like me, lighten it up and ease the tension with a bad joke.

    "I like someone but they don’t like me back, what do I do to get over them?"
    —Anonymous

    Like most things in life, it all boils down to one question: how petty do you want to be? If you’d like us to formally address you as Ms. Petty LaBelle moving forward, go after one of his best friends, an attractive sibling, or a single dad as rebound options in your quest to make him jealous and full of regret. Or (and this is a very big or), you can understand that him not liking you has nothing to do with your own value and worth. Don’t stalk him on social media, don’t psychoanalyze everything you’ve ever said to him that could’ve been "wrong," and definitely don’t start to pick yourself apart over it (no, you don't need to debut a “revenge body,” either!!!). Instead of wasting energy trying to convince someone you’re worthy of liking, dust yourself off, practice some self-love, listen to Lizzo on repeat, and put yourself back out there again.

    I know it’s easier said than done, but there’s a reason your mom and every person over the age of 50 has told you, “there are plenty of fish in the sea” a million times before. It’s true, and one who will appreciate you is out there and always worth waiting for.


    Kathryn Wirsing

    Need some advice? Submit all your questions to [email protected] or DM me on Instagram @LaurenAlexisNYC. Read more Fishing for Answers here.

    Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
    More From Features
  • 我的中国医改建议,彻底解决看病难看病贵 2019-05-20
  • 中年不发福!51岁景岗山紧身衣秀健硕身材 2019-05-13
  • 紫光阁中共中央国家机关工作委员会 2019-05-10
  • 张大良:高校服务经济社会发展是自身发展的源头活水 2019-05-09
  • 中国又突破难题,杂交水稻在非洲沙漠没有“水土不服”,产量可观 2019-05-06
  • 为什么世界杯让我们如此疯狂 2019-05-01
  • 中央和国家机关“建功新时代 岗位作贡献”br劳模精神宣讲报告会在京举行 2019-04-25
  • 百名红色通缉令三成多归案 海外追逃难在何处? 2019-04-25
  • 设计时速160公里 2.0版商用磁浮列车下线 2019-04-24
  • Map Out Your Life in Chongqing 2019-04-21
  • 【改革印记——看中国发展】从扫盲到留守儿童关爱:暑期社会实践的变迁 2019-04-21
  • 除非必要,下定义要用是,而不是用不,懂吗?“自由发展”是什么,如果劳动还成为人们的日常负担,有自由发展吗? 2019-04-20
  • 上海电影节女性影人大放异彩 中生代女演员不用焦虑 2019-04-19
  • 湖州德清:外宾点赞“智慧诉讼” 2019-04-19
  • 身高没有达到标准就不能认证教师资格证吗? 2019-04-19